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65 and still trying on line dating`1

So its been about 4 weeks now that I have been trolling various on line dating sites. I have had a couple of coffee dates which I must say I have enjoyed. In many ways its like what I imagine speed dating is like. The conversation has a rushed quality to it. All too quickly I find my self in very personal territory. I push on barely paying full attention because all of my questions are racing and I don’t want to forget to ask the big questions like, what do you like to do when you are not working? Have you ever killed anyone? Served time in jail? Read, like movies, any current girlfriends?

Of course I don’t remember much. I do note if he is a good kisser. And then there is the sex question….do you like sex….well yes, yes I do but its been awhile. On one occasion after making out for a little bit I realized my guy had an erection and he was very large. My first reaction was I am going to have to get myself a dilator kit for sure. If I am to have any kind of penetration I’ll need to work on that.

This was just the beginning of my to do list. Once the question of sex came up I began my inventory starting in the evening while getting ready for bed I wrapped myself in my favorite blue and white fleece snow-flaked bathrobe, very warm but not very sexy. I look down and I see my giant toenails with chipped polish from the summer. These nails are so hard I could open up cans with them in an emergency. The  legs are bit hairy and I have a few hairs sprouting out from my pubic area where once there was a full bush. That too will need some work.

It now dawns on me the meaning of ” must be well groomed” which has caught my eye in some of the profiles men have written in regards to qualities they were looking for in their date.Ever so slowly I realize that I might not be “well groomed” after being single for soo long I cut my grooming routine down to special occasions.  And it was very liberating.

However I have also become aware of my desire to bring out my more sensual being, Body scrubs scented with amber or vanilla, feet soaks, pedicures, massages all are now on my to do list in a very gentle haphazard way of course .

So you think you want to meet people to date on line

Okay so I have been on and off again about these dating sites. Curiosity and boredom gave me the wink so I figured why not?

There are more people out there then I ever imagined. Here I am ,soon to be this sixty-five year old  woman taking a chance getting her toes wet and the water is cold most of the time. My profile is short, I try to appear witty and sexy. But when I posted that I like making out on elevators boy did the water get hot. The guys just assumed I was having sex, ie blow jobs on the elevator. Now I wouldn’t mind having oral sex on an elevator but the only elevator in our town is maybe four floors high. Can’t get much done in that amount of time. Forget about a quickie…maybe if I didn’t have any underwear on that might speed things up and perhaps if I was enjoying a 21-year-old maybe… and if I wasn’t wearing anything like spank I don’t think so. But here’s the thing ,once we get the sex conversation out-of-the-way I get to hear some really nice stories

One guy was all excited about the elevator and slowly I began asking him about his life. Married, widowed and just broke up with his partner because she wanted him to marry her. Once he started, we talked for an hour. He was very honest about his past, he has been in recovery for 25 years he was addicted to coke and vodka( two of my favorites} He tried rehab many times, his wife divorced him and then he got it. They remarried and had a few good years together and then she got lung cancer and died very quickly. He went on to become a drug counselor in prisons and now he is retired.

Now I would have never met this person never mind him telling me about himself at this level. What I am learning is we all need to feel connected. There is so little community left. Bars are boring, Church yikes I don’t go and I’d rather sit here nice and warm and safe in my little piece of the universe ,that is until I get bored.